The Whole Meghan Markle Debacle
Let’s talk about what Meghan Markle showcased for the world to see, not the underlying racism present in basically any western country. Oh no, we knew that was a thing long before she became a royal. What I’m talking about is the girl of colour tale, one you’ll be all too familiar with, personally or because you saw a friend going through it.
But let’s take a step back, because yeah, it sounds like I’m going to rant about something (which I am) but I’d like for everyone to follow me on this one.
“Interracial ” couples have been around for the longest time, for most of this time, it was a shameful thing and in some places even illegal (see USA, South Africa). Then in the 2000s, it became cool to have beige looking kids, and people thought that finally, racism was over. But of course, it’s not, and some very disturbing conversations about this take place in our daily lives.
I personally experienced the two extremes: the first, in which the parents of your significant other are averse to the son/ daughter’s choice but do not want to consistently oppose their child’s choice so they instead end up constantly assaulting your mental health with sweeping statements that may go over bae’s head but not yours, and this happens not only in private conversations but also at family get togethers and public settings. The second, in which no one cares because they understand how the world should be, not “colour blind”, as some people like to put it, but chromotophile (=love of colours, independently from being dark or bright ).
Now, we do not know what happened behind closed doors to Megan, but we might be able to sympathise with the knowledge that the British royal family is an institution built on white privilege and Meghan does not come from that type of background, she had to work hard to get to her position and that grinding mindset never leaves you, even if you become a princess.
In other words, the point I’m trying to make is that it is not so weird for some mixed couple to try to avoid their family’s judgement by putting miles between one another, and if possible see them once in a couple of years and don’t really feel guilty about it because, when you are there it clicks and you clearly remember the toxicity of their words.
So, I’m definitely with Meghan on this one, what do you guys think about my words, do you agree, disagree? Have a different take?
Take care of you.
Gabs
Gabs, is your 25-year-old, your average girl next door, millennial. Her blog, Pinksilverfox.com, covers various subjects such as food, events and the continuous struggle of being a first generation afro European, Gaby also does not shy away from the taboo subject of mental health. Her Demur column ‘Gabs’ Afro Millenial Handbook’ is an inquiry into the worries and preoccupations of the millennial. Most of us share the same worries but it may seem like there is no one else to talk to. Whether it be your job? your relationships or your sexuality? Gabs’ column aims to remind you that it’s ok to feel a certain way about issues that might be personal (or social). She might not have the answers to all your questions just yet, but she’s willing to dig hard and deep to find them.
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